HOW SEXY ARE WE?
WHO CARES? SEXY HAS A SHELF LIFE. BEING A DECENT SOUL iS WHAT LASTS.
There are aspects of our selves in life we uncover as we move through life. We uncover them and they are things that were always there. We just have an opportunity to fully embrace them and understand them for what they are and how they serve us. So we have this thing of exposing or uncovering in our evolution. And then we have this thing of emptying out the garbage, purging our selves things of toxic notions and behavior. To this we have things that are simply toxic and self destructive in any phase of life. And then we have things, trickier things, innocent things which become toxic over time. We can struggle with such things as we can’t understand why they were fine years ago and suddenly they don’t give us the same return on investment. This has to with our evolution. At front and center of this struggle can be our relationship to sex, intimacy, and sexuality.
Whether we want to accept it or not, sex is a thing that is designed for procreation and nature has turned it into a thing of pleasure so that we want to do it. If there was no pleasure in sex, we may still procreate but not at the rate or to the degree we do. So sexual pleasure is not designed to last. Nor is it designed to give our life deep meaning. Nor is it ever meant to be something we should define our selves by. Yet we live in a world, an illusive world, that loves to play the game of what is, or who is sexy. This is profoundly bound to ur sense of cultural acceptance and self worth. History has displayed this dance of people with increasing power and authority get to have more sex with more people. And who do we want to be? Important people with power and authority. So, we jump in the game.
The tainted view of sex from spirituality is that the soul is good and the body is evil. Sex is bad. That is this is the goal of higher mind to recognize the evil that sex is. This is much like our tainted view of money. Money is neither good nor bad. It is just money. What are we doing with it or what are we doing to get it. And, how much do we really need. Sex is the same.
We will find life that there are a large number of people who grow old bitter and resentful and one of the things that bothers them is that are no longer sexy. Perhaps they were never sexy. This is counter to our innate wisdom. The joy of aging, with all of its challenges, is the ability ti say, look I have a 3inch hair on my ear and I don’t care! Okay we can shave it. And we can dress nicely if we choose. We can enjoy being presentable, even fashionable. But the goal of being sexy is wasted energy. It is reliant on the need for approval from others. If we mature wisely, we are beyond that. We are happy in our own skin. What begins as a notion of wanting to be sexy ut not being acknowledged is truly just a cover for a host of unresolved insecurities that we are meant to grow out of. What is most attractive is what is comfortable in its own skin. What is happiest is that which does not care what one gets in return for being comfortable in ones own skin. What is most fulfilling does not lie on the skin it lies under the skin. IN our flesh and bones via our hearts.
Sex is and has always been one of the most distorted and misdirected aspects of our nature, because it is so powerful in regards to our e sense of purpose and acceptance. Of worth. Yet as powerful as this is, we all need to cut this chord to some degree if we are to age with grace and joy, elsewise, it will drag us down into anger at our natural process of aging. The energy of feeling sexy, of being sexually attractive is addictive. All energy, powerful energy is addictive. And what do we know know of things that are addictive? Rarely do they play out well in the long run. TO overcome, we must addictions with better addictions. We must become addicted to learning how to be a good friend and find good friends. We must become addicted to feeling good in our own skin and happy just the way we are. We must become addicted to watching the game of life and allowing others to try their hand at being sexy, knowing it has a shelf life and is ground zero for so much of our worst human dramas.
Don’t be sexy. That has too many demands, either on others, or on our selves. Be beautiful. Beautiful does not need demands. A flower does not need to get laid to validate itself. We cn age and be beautiful people. We can glow with presence and wisdom. That beauty can have no demands on others. And we can start anytime. Get a head start if you are young. Be your beautiful self. Imagine you are an old soul. Imagine your self living a long life and having many years that the world is not going to see you as a sexy thing. Look forward to that. A removal of a burden. What is not sexy is real. It valuable. What is sexy is temporary and illusive. It is only a doorway to drama. To love your body has nothing to do with sex unless you see it that way. Love your body. Look after it. Cherish it. It does not need to be validated for you to celebrate it as a gift. Recognize that any sexual struggles or issues you have go back for centuries. They not some personal struggle or unique challenge you have. It is a timeless challenge humans face in finding their true happiness. Sex is just sex It is what it is and does what it does, but you are far more valuable than sex, and your greatest happiness will never come from a short passing burst of momentary euphoria. And definitely not from a shamefully disappointing drunken affair that you cannot wait to run from.